Sexual assault happens when someone is forced into a sexual act without their consent. It can make you feel uncomfortable, scared, or even violated. This includes things like:

• Unwanted touching or actions
• It happens without your consent
• It makes you feel uncomfortable or afraid

So, what is consent?

Consent means you agree to be part of a sexual activity. It has to be a clear ‘yes’ — not pressured or uncertain. Want to know more about consent? Read more about consent here.

You can’t consent if:

• You’re forced or threatened
• You’re unable to respond (like being asleep or unconscious)
• You’re too drunk or high to make an informed decision
• You don’t fully understand what’s happening
• You’re misled about who’s involved or the nature of the act
• You’re tricked into thinking it’s necessary for medical reasons

If you have been pressured, guilt-tripped or physically forced into having sex it is sexual assault. You can read more about sexual assault on SECASA’s website and 1800 RESPECT’s website.

Sexual assault can include things like:

• Rape (sex without consent)
• Unwanted touching or kissing
• Being made to do sexual things against your will
• ‘Flashing’ (someone exposing themselves)
• Stalking
• Watching or filming someone without their permission
• Sharing private images without consent
• Forcing someone to watch or join in on porn
• Using substances to overpower someone

What should I do if I’ve been assaulted?

It’s really tough to face, but remember, it’s not your fault. It doesn’t matter who it is or what your past experiences with them might be. If you’ve been assaulted, it can stir up a lot of tough emotions like anger or sadness.

Here’s what you can do:

• Talk to someone you trust: This could be a friend, family member, or teacher. If talking face-to-face is daunting, reach out to  Kids Helpline or 1800 RESPECT. (1800 RESPECT is a national helpline for people who have experienced sexual assault or family violence.) A counsellor will help you deal with your feelings, get medical attention if you need it and decide what to do next. 
• Get medical help if needed: A doctor or nurse can check you’re physically okay and provide any needed treatments.
• Consider your next steps: This might include reporting the assault. You can also report it anonymously via the Sexual Assault Report Anonymously website if you’re not ready to involve the police.

You might be able to apply for a Protection Order (also known as an intervention order) that will stop the person who assaulted you from contacting you or being near you. Protection orders are different in every state, check out 1800 RESPECT to find out how they work, and how to apply for one, in your state

Talking about sexual assault is incredibly hard, but getting it out there can be the first step towards healing. Remember, it’s about keeping yourself safe and finding the support you need.