Ever feel like something’s off in your relationship? You’re meant to be treated with respect, have your opinions valued, and be free to make your own choices (including saying ‘no’). Does your partner dominate your time? Do they isolate you from your friends and family? Do they put you down a lot? These are all telltale signs that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Check out this video to see what relationship violence can look like.

My partner and I sometimes fight. Is that okay?

Disagreements are part of relationships, but it might be a red flag if you’re constantly fighting. You should never feel pressured to drop your mates or hobbies for your partner. If their needs are taking over your life or you’re losing sight of who you are, it’s worth rethinking where your relationship is heading. If any of this sounds familiar you can head over to Safe+Equal and check out their relationship resources or try this quiz to see if things are healthy.

What are the warning signs of an abusive relationship?

If your partner gets super jealous or tries to control you, that’s a major concern. Abuse can be emotional, social, financial, sexual, or physical. Watch out if your partner:

• Puts you down or criticises you
• Threatens self-harm if you think of leaving
• Stalks your every move
• Keeps you from seeing your friends and family
• Makes you feel guilty for working or socialising
• Takes control of your money or stops you from using it
• Pressures you into sexual activities
• Threatens or physically harms you, your loved ones, or pets

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship check out DVRCV, or download the iMatter App.

Is someone you know in an abusive relationship? Check out DVRCV’s page for families, friends and neighbours or for how your support can make a difference.

What if I have a disability and think I’m being abused?

There’s help available specifically tailored to your needs. Find more information on staying safe here.

Where to go for help

If you’re in immediate danger call 000 straight away.

You might be able to apply for a Protection Order (also known as an intervention order) that will stop your partner from contacting you or being near you. Protection orders are different in every state, check out 1800 RESPECT to find out how they work, and how to apply for one, in your state.

You can call 1800RESPECT or the Kids Helpline for confidential counselling and advice.

If one of your friends is experiencing violence in their relationship try to support them as much as you can, be there for them and listen to them. Let them know there are places they can go for support like Kids Helpline or 1800RESPECT.