Anal sex is an act between two consenting individuals, where the anus is stimulated in some way. It is important that this practice is done safely, so read on to learn about all the things you can do to make anal sex an enjoyable and safe experience!

The only reason you should have anal sex is because you really want to.  

All sex acts require full consent from everyone involved. Any response other than an enthusiastic ‘yes’ is called non-consensual sex. That’s illegal. Read more about sex & consent here, and respectful relationships here.

Are you having trouble talking with your partner about sex and stuff? Then read this.

The must-dos for safe anal sex! 

• Contraception

If you are wanting to have anal sex, use barrier contraception to stop yourself from contracting a sexually transmitted infection. It’s also important to make sure that you’re getting regular sexual health checkups at your local sexual health clinic.

• Vaginas + Bums Do Not Mix

If a vagina comes in contact with any of the bacteria from an anus, it can cause a yeast infection (thrush) or a UTI. Make sure to keep anything that has been in contact with the anus away from the vagina. This means changing a condom if you are going from anal to vaginal sex, and making sure all areas are clean. If you don’t, you or your partner might get sick.

• Pre, during and post anal care 

The anus is a sensitive area that is important for a vital process in your body, so it is important to take care of it!

• Clean the area beforehand, you can do this by having a shower. This also might relax you, meaning that a penetrative experience may be nicer.  
• If penetrating the anus, use lots of lube! The inside of your anus is delicate tissue and can tear easily. This can be very painful and cause infections. Make sure you are communicating with your partner about what feels good for you and to stop if you are in pain.
• If you are in pain after, or you notice swelling, bleeding, or difficulty pooing, go to see a doctor. You can check out our page on how to see a doctor by yourself. 

Myth Busting!

• Myth: Anal sex is only for gay men 

1. 1. • While a common practice in the gay community, anal sex can be pleasurable for anybody! The anus is a sensitive area that has many different nerves – so anybody can enjoy anal sex.
      • Did you know that in anal sex when the anus is not penetrated by a penis it is called “pegging”?

• Myth: You can’t get pregnant during anal sex 

1. 1. • Because there may be semen near a vagina when having anal sex, if you are capable of getting pregnant there is a possibility of conception.

• Myth: You can’t get a Sexually Transmitted Infection from anal sex

• • • Due to the sensitive nature of the anus, it is actually easier to acquire a STI. This is especially true for the person being penetrated. 

Want to learn more? 

You can learn more about safe sex and access help if you need it from Headspace. 

To learn about safe queer sex, STIs, and Sexual Health Clinics you can check out our other articles!