Becoming a Parent

A sudden pregnancy doesn’t mean your life is over. First, make sure you are pregnant by visiting a doctor, as those pee sticks can sometimes be wrong. Once you have confirmation, it’s time to consider what you want to do. And don’t forget – whatever choice you make, it’s up to you.

Definitely pregnant? You have options. You could:

Become a parent
Have an abortion
Adoption

Becoming a parent

Some women and girls, who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant, might choose to become a mother. Others, might decide to have an abortion (end the pregnancy) or give the baby up for adoption. Whatever you decide, is entirely your choice.

If you continue with the pregnancy, in a few months you will be having a baby. Factors which might influence the decision of whether or not to continue to continue with the pregnancy and become a parent could be:

  • Am I ready to be a mum?
  • Am I healthy enough to have a baby?
  • Am I financially able to raise a child? (do I have enough money?)
  • Will I be able to continue with school or work?
  • Where will we live?

Relationships are also an important factor. Raising a child can be challenging at times and support networks (like family, friends, boyfriend or partner) will be really valuable. Pregnant women and girls might ask themselves:

  • Will I raise the child together with the father?
  • Will I have to bring up the child on my own?
  • Are there people who will support me in my decision? (family, friends, boyfriend or partner)


If these questions are making you feel a little overwhelmed, it might be  worth considering talking to a counsellor or psychologist or your local family planning clinic. They might be able to see your situation a little clearer, and help you reach a solution that suits you and your circumstances.

Getting Help


If you need to talk to someone urgently, contact Kids Help Line (1800 55 1800). They are available to help – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

If you require medical assistance, and you don’t want to see your family doctor or you don’t have one, a sexual health clinic is great option. Visit the Sexual Health & Family Planning Australia to find a clinic near you.